Comments on Adventures in wanting: I wish...

You make such a great point that wishing for thing...

2010-02-01T16:19:07.076-08:00

You make such a great point that wishing for things we CAN control is very passive, and it is just plain unproductive. I feel like wishing for some things becomes somewhat circular, neverending. I do hold back due to fear and anxiety, but when I have been able to brave them, I've learned a lot. It's about baby steps for me.

Excellent post! I wish I could figure out how to ...

2010-02-01T06:20:12.228-08:00

Excellent post!

I wish I could figure out how to make more friends. I have many wishes but after reading your post, I realize they are doable things instead of hopes for the future. It motivates me to make them a reality.

It sounds like some of your wishes are actions tha...

2010-02-01T03:28:17.633-08:00

It sounds like some of your wishes are actions that you are hesitant to make, like the ice skating. You know, I told you my aunt was coming to visit last week, but what I should have mentioned was that I was anxious about eating dinner. Not the food part but I just WORRY that I won't have fun! Then I get all anxious about it. I feel that way about the other thing we are doing this weekend that I told you about. I'm all "IF I am making the effort to leave the house, I better have a damn good time!"

And it's not that I don't like to do things, I LOVE to be active! I just worry about wasting my time, when I know I could be at home, happy. There are some people I don't worry about this with (a few friends, most family) but most of the time, I do.

Can you relate at all?

I wish so many things! I wish I was a better mom....

2010-01-31T19:44:47.130-08:00

I wish so many things! I wish I was a better mom...I wish I was more patient...I wish I wasn't so particular about things like cleaning...I wish I stopped buying expensive jeans for no reason...I wish I could eat bread and butter! I too wish I could use my free time to write more.

Great post...I love this!

I wish I knew what it was like to be happy. I wish...

2010-01-31T17:34:57.667-08:00

I wish I knew what it was like to be happy.
I wish I wasn't constantly worried about money.
I wish I was comfortable in social situations.
I wish I knew how to see the good in my life and ignore the bad.

i'm always wishing and dreaming. but life is also...

2010-01-31T14:37:21.377-08:00

i'm always wishing and dreaming. but life is also pretty great the way it is....

I usually wish that I could help my friends who ar...

2010-01-31T14:19:08.448-08:00

I usually wish that I could help my friends who are still ill. I know, that makes me sound like a terrible sap :P but it's not because I'm a saint, it's because I'm scared of wishing for things for myself. Wishing is too close to hoping which is too much of a risk for disappointment. I hate feeling as if I'm missing out, that something is out of my control. So I don't wish for myself. I have started making myself do things anyway in the last few months, and going into them with no expectations and a relaxed attitude as to what I 'want' out of them has made them much easier to deal with. Maybe you could pick one wish every week (or even month!) to try and make true ;)

I wish I went out more. I love just staying in. It...

2010-01-31T14:04:42.827-08:00

I wish I went out more. I love just staying in. It's stress free. Going out...having to put effort into my appearance...being around pretty people...it makes me very anxious. But that's what people do here! I need to get with the program.

Ummm...do I even have to comment, given your comme...

2010-01-31T14:01:31.442-08:00

Ummm...do I even have to comment, given your comment on my last post? I'm going to e-mail you, but I just wanted to say that Ski-lo (is that the name?)is now in my head for the rest of the night and I wish it wasn't...

P.S. My word verification is "snurp." Huh?

Kim, I really enjoyed this post- hit home a lot fo...

2010-01-31T13:53:47.922-08:00

Kim, I really enjoyed this post- hit home a lot for me! Sometimes it's so easy to forget that we do have the means to take action and fulfill our 'wishes' or aspirations. You're right though- wishing is hoping for things outside our own control. Sometimes though while we want something, it just seems like "too much work" to go about getting it, and for me a lot of the time there is the fear that it won't work out or it won't be what I expect it to be and so I just don't do it at all.

theres always something in your posts that makes m...

2010-01-31T13:33:46.093-08:00

theres always something in your posts that makes me laugh out loud big time. i wish i was a little bit taller i wish i was a baller! hahah
i love your blog.
i wish i could leave my goddamn house! iv been tucked away here for 2 months, only leaving 5 or 6 times to go to therapy appointments. when i am ready to leave i wish i studies yoga and aromatherapy, i wish i did more nature stuff
i wish i did more creative stuff with my living spaces
i wish i was reliable and saw my friends all the time, I wish I could smile at my family more to give them hope, I wish I saw myself as others see me. I wish I could figure out which residential treatment would be better for me.
I wish I had a sugar daddy.
I wish I knew how to get writing published, and i wish I went to a writing school of some kind.
I wish I could get lazer hair removal so I didnt have to shave my legs anymore!!
I wish I could have loved my last boyfriend back because he owns a resort and life could have been easy breezy, I wish I could know if the person I have been in love with for the last 6 years really is soulmates or just co-dependancy

I wish I went out to brunch more often. <-- Make a...

2010-01-31T13:15:29.316-08:00

I wish I went out to brunch more often. <-- Make a n every other weekend brunch date with Larry. Madison Square and Gardens in Laguna Beach is fantastic.
I wish I saw more movies in the theater. <--It's so pricey!
I wish I did more "activities": Indoor climbing, hikes, whatever. <--This past year has been an improvement when it comes to activities.. See blog about rock climbing, Julian hikes, etc..
I wish I splurged on the expensive make-up at the Nordstrom counter. <-- Ulta is cheaper, just as good, the sales people aren't as snooty.. Actually, I retract the last statement.
I wish I bought nicer clothes. <--You look lovely (even though you hate that word) in your clothes. I love your style.
I wish I traveled more. <-- Hi ;) tickets to Lyon are cheap. You also just got back from Vegas and have 2 vacations planned.. silly girl!
I wish I had the guts to move to a new city. <-- it's overrated. Let me tell ya!
I wish I'd gain 15 pounds so my ass would look better in jeans. They have jeans now with butt pads in them. done and done.
I wish I used my free time to write more. <-- I wish this, too. Mostly because you're an incredible writer and I love your stories.
I wish I was a little bit taller, I wish I was a baller, I wish I had a girl who looked good, I would call her. (I wish someone else remembers that song).
<-- I wish I had a rabbit in a hat with a bat and a '64 Impala! Love that song!

Good luck if you decide to meet with a psychiatrist. Use your assertive voice to get what you want and avoid what you don't.

Once again, I love your posts!